pregnancy & baby festival

O'Reilly Hall, UCD, Dublin
22-23 February 2014, 10am - 5pm

You made me a mother

Video credit Boba.com

“I made you, but you made me a mother.”

I’m typing this with a big lump in my throat and eyes full of tears. This is a stunning video that captures the experiences of real Mums and how they feel about being a Mother.

What are the little things that make you feel like a parent? When did you really feel like a Mum or Dad for the first time? For me it was when I realised that just being snuggled up in my arms was enough to soothe my baby, she didn’t need anything else, just me.

This video really reminded me that every time a baby is born, so is a parent. Even if you are having your second, third, fourth or tenth baby. You are a different and new parent to each one. You have to learn about them and they have to learn about you. It’s all new again.

Enjoy learning about each other and growing together!

eumom’s the word!

a guest post from our web partner eumom

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eumom.ie are delighted to be involved with Babytalk Festival as the official web partner of the event.

As a community of moms, we see on a daily basis the advice, support, knowledge and friendship our members receive from each other. It’s a wonderful thing to see moms supporting each other, because no one else knows how tough (and wonderful!) new motherhood can be.

For more than 10 years, eumom.ie has supported moms and families in Ireland. This focus has given us an in-depth understanding of parenting and means we are completely in tune with today’s modern, busy moms. From big announcements to joyful arrivals, from first steps to first days at school, we empower moms to connect, share and engage with each other – and this has made eumom.ie the largest, best loved and most trusted parenting community in Ireland.

With so much information to process when you start on your parenting journey, finding your way through all the old wives’ tales and misinformation can be exhausting and overwhelming. eumom.ie takes all of that worry and confusion away, leaving you with all the essentials you do need to know – and that’s why our partnership with Babytalk Festival is so exciting.

This great weekend of events for parents-to-be and new parents is all about demystifying conflicting advice and preparing you for the journey ahead. We’re looking forward to it!

Emily Manning, editor of eumom.ie , will also be taking part in a panel discussion on ‘Good Information vs Bad Advice: online parenting support and information’ at Babytalk Festival on Sunday February 23rd at 4pm. Up for discussion are the online options for parents and parents-to-be in Ireland, as well as the positive aspects and drawbacks of the online parenting world.

See you at Babytalk!

Doulas do what?

Guest post from Tracy Donegan of  GentleBirth – a babytalk exhibitor.

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Tracy Donegan RM – Founder of Doula Ireland

Although Doula services have only been available in Ireland since 2005.  The work of the Doula extends back to ancient Greek times when the Doula was household servant who provided extra care and emotional support and encouragement to a labouring mother. In more recent times research positively shows that mothers who have a Doula with them in hospital (or at home) have less caesareans and less routine interventions. Doulas are welcome in all Irish hospitals and a welcome addition to our over stretched maternity services where 1:1 care in labour is not always possible.

What is the difference between a Doula and a midwife?
Doulas do not perform any clinical tasks. Your midwife is responsible for your clinical care as well as physical and emotional support but your doula is 100% focused on only your emotional and physical comfort. This is the part of the job that midwives enjoy the most but with current staffing levels, policies and procedures it can be impossible to provide that extra support a Mum needs. Although all hospitals promise one to one support throughout your labour this isn’t always the case and you do not know the midwife and the midwife does not know you. Your doula does not replace your midwife but works along side her as she completes clinical tasks and documentation. Your doula fills that gap when your midwife is busy with other tasks/breaks or goes home at the end of her shift.

Over 20 years of research shows that the presence of a birth doula has a significant impact on the outcomes of births.

  • 31% decrease in the use of Pitocin (drip to speed up labour)
  • 28% decrease in the risk of having a caesarean section
  • 12% increase in the likelihood of a spontaneous vaginal birth
  • 9% decrease in the use of any medications for pain relief
  • 14% decrease in the risk of newborns being admitted to a special care nursery
  • 34% decrease incidences of being dissatisfied with the birth experience

My partner will be there and he has been to all the antenatal classes with me – why would I need a doula?
A good antenatal class is essential for positive birth preparation but the intensity of emotion surrounding the birth of his baby….while providing support to you AND remembering everything he learned in the class is a big responsibility.  Having a doula with you means Dad can participate in a way that is comfortable for him. Your doula can remind birth partners about what they learned in the antenatal classes if necessary.
 Here’s one of my favorite analogies: if your partner is a football fan he’s probably seen plenty of matches on TV….maybe he plays in a league on Tuesday nights…but tomorrow he’s going to be expected to coach in the World Cup. How confident would he feel?

Will my partner feel left out if I have a doula?
Having a doula helps Dads to provide meaningful support to their partners. Some partners are concerned the doula will ‘take over’ during labour. Sometimes Mums feel they don’t need a doula because their partner will be with them on the day. Your doula supports you both. Most partners have never supported a woman in labour before, have limited knowledge about what really happens in birth or the workings of the hospital and will need to leave you for bathroom breaks or sometimes during medical procedures. Some partners are apprehensive about having a doula before meeting us but this is seldom a concern after the initial meeting. Partners report that after the birth they felt reassured having a doula present and found having the doula helped them be as involved as they wanted to. Dads feel much more confident when they are given the tools to advocate for mum. We spend a significant amount of time working with you and your partner so they feel very capable and confident at the hospital.

I’m a very private person – isn’t the doula a stranger ?
For most Mums their midwife is a stranger too. But we will have spent quite a bit of time getting to know each other during our meetings in pregnancy before your baby’s birth. Think of your doula as a good friend who’ll be with you during the birth and after.

For more information on doula services around Ireland visit http://www.Doula.ie or http://www.DoulaIreland.com

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Bio
Tracy Donegan is the Founder of Doula Ireland, the first service to offer Doula care in Ireland in 2005.  Tracy is a Registered Midwife and used the services of a Doula for both of her sons births.  Tracy is certified with DONA International and provides accredited birth Doula training in Ireland and abroad. Tracy is also the Author of The Irish Better Birth Book, The Irish Caesarean and VBAC Guide and Founder of GentleBirth.

from one generation to the next

The last two weeks have been a rollercoaster of emotions, the excitement of planning Babytalk and the overwhelming response that we are having to it has been amazing, at the other end of the spectrum, I’ve also been very sad.

My Great Grandmother passed away last week and we all came together to say goodbye and to celebrate her life at the weekend. My Nana was 93 years old, she was a Mother, a Grandmother, a Great Grandmother, and a Great Great Grandmother.

Up until last week my family had five living generations – not many families can claim such a feat! As I sat with my little girl on my lap, leaning against my growing bump, I felt both sad and happy. My Nana’s life had come to an end, but here stirring inside was a new life, just about to begin.

My little girl was very lucky to have known her Great Great Grandmother. They sang and played together, both loving each others company. The songs they sang, were the songs that were sung to me when I was little, passed down to my Grandmother, to my Mother and now I am keeping them alive and singing them to my Daughter who will one day sing them to her own children.

2 bumps

Sitting beside me on the church bench was my Sister. She too is growing a new little life, there are just 6 days between our estimated due dates. We took some family shots during the day, my favourites are of the two new additions to our family – the next generation.

Grandparents are such special people, full of knowledge, experience, stories and songs. Treasure them!

Dedicated to my Nana.